Comments on: We Need To Talk About…Finding Balance During Menopause

By: Erin Busbee

Erin Busbee — Wed, 04 May 2022 15:10:44 +0000

In reply to Carolyn.

Thanks for sharing your story, Carolyn! Concerning your question about a slightly larger waist, if your waist is your largest measurement then you may be a circle shape. Here’s a link to a video that will help you determine your body shape:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DNDrVVoHtAw&list=PL6xMaBj8Zyg_HmEOvouHi4LZAqczgb5aL&index=2&t=4s&ab_channel=BusbeeStyle-FashionandBeautyOver40

If you are indeed a circle, then I would suggest trying NYDJ jeans. Here’s a link to some options: https://rstyle.me/+iISjUYaThlw9bH9N9R8U7A

And this video will help you to style a circle body shape: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqtu42-Th1c&t=7s&ab_channel=BusbeeStyle-FashionandBeautyOver40

I hope this helps! ~Erin xo

By: Erin Busbee

Erin Busbee — Tue, 03 May 2022 13:58:54 +0000

In reply to Pamela. You are SO sweet, Pamela... Thanks for sharing your tips. ~Erin xo

By: Erin Busbee

Erin Busbee — Tue, 03 May 2022 13:57:42 +0000

In reply to NancyJean. WOW, Nancy... you and your sister have both had quite the menopause journey! This is a great example of how different everyone's journey can be. Thanks for sharing your tips. ~Erin xo

By: NancyJean

NancyJean — Sun, 01 May 2022 23:21:50 +0000

Yes menopause is so individual and there is no single remedy that works for all. My younger sister of 3yrs was thrown into after an ablation for uterine cyst, been 10 yrs of hot flashes and jacked her sedate diabetes back into swing. My end is tame, 1st bled like a stuck pig-yes a serious murder scene at work. Chair & some clothing was tossed-told go home, take ibuprofen every 4hrs & raise feet and it would stop. Didn’t work, but by 3rd day that was it, never a pad or tampon to be bought. No hot flashes, but sleep disturbances haunt me..stress level sucks! Met a woman many yrs ago who ran daily, ate Vitamin A,C,D&E-she said no issues for menopause. I am vitamin happy, multi one, then add C,D,E,B6 & B12 for energy. Also lecithin for hair & nails(soy based so cancer pts avoid, unless changed now?) The weight didn’t accumulate till @58 which was 4 yrs after that blood bath. 2 yrs packed on more weight than ever & it won’t vanish. Really don’t eat much, alcohol limited, walk dog & chunky belly from hell. Like I said sister totally different..I bought her camisoles & tank shirts so she can strip to lightest clothes. She buys me sweaters, sweatshirts & blankets as I am always freezing. That’s my story & sticking to it! Stay healthy! Ps libido..depends if he pisses me off. Water based jells are good, but oral sex helps best. Sorry for tmi. Lol

By: Erin Busbee

Erin Busbee — Fri, 29 Apr 2022 23:00:00 +0000

In reply to Charley. I'm so sorry you are struggling, Charley... I SO get it and it’s debilitating and messes with your brain. I'm glad you aren't feeling alone. I am sending a big virtual hug. ~Erin xo

By: Charley

Charley — Fri, 29 Apr 2022 14:22:09 +0000

Thank you for this post. It made me cry because it resonates so well with my journey. I am struggling with all of this-menopause, getting older, adjusting to the things that change that you cannot undo. I have been on hormonal patches for 8mths but recently have felt the symptoms coming back so again I am taking the supplements I know helped previously. Yet every day I struggle with the fight to feel okay, to not get depressed about how my body no longer feels like me, how I so want to shed those last 15-20lbs yet cannot. I eat healthy and exercise when I have the energy, I try not to get angry with myself when I don’t exercise or feel like crap and want to just sit. It is exhausting, it is tiring, it is a 24hr experience and it is hard to explain to anyone who isn’t going through it. SO thank you Erin for making us feel like we are not alone.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Sun, 24 Apr 2022 16:14:00 +0000

Erin, I know someone who can help – for REAL!
Dr. Anna Cabeca, triple-board certified OB-GYN. She is the “Girlfriend Doctor” and her books on lifestyle and her supplements including topical progesterone and DHEA creams have saved so many women – including me!
That Julva cream is magic. Stops leaks and brings back the drive. The Balance progesterone cream is calming and fades fine lines and age spots. Mighty Maca+ brings back the energy and eases nasty symptoms. I just can’t say enough good things about her Keto-Green program and products. I encourage every woman to check out her website. You will be SO glad you did!!! https://drannacabeca.com/
I enjoy all of your posts and videos. Keep it up!
Cheers!

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Sun, 24 Apr 2022 16:11:50 +0000

Hi Erin,
I hope this will be encouraging; I’m 66, 26 years out from “instant menopause” due to an emergency hysterectomy at age 40. I know that a “complete hysterectomy” is not a medically accepted term but they scooped EVERYTHING OUT. That was in 1996. So HRT took care of all symptoms. But in 2007 I was diagnosed with estrogen receptive breast cancer: no more HRT. BUMMER.
Very long story short — the weight problem has, for the most part, just gone away. I just don’t get as hungry, smaller portions satisfy and it’s not a conscious choice. Larger portions make me feel physically uncomfortable. Junk food has lost it’s appeal and I find myself gravitating towards fruit and veg, grilled fish and chicken– but I’ll never lose my love for a good steak! I just don’t eat it very often and a 6 Oz fillet mignon more than satisfies me. Anything more and I’m stuffed! Sugar doesn’t hold the appeal it used to. That’s not to say that I no longer have butter, breads, pastry, etc. I eat like the French to some extent. Good food in small portions, taking more time to eat and getting exercise in activities I want to do – walking, biking. Would this be a form of surrender?
The thing is, I haven’t made cany conscious effort to change anything. I’ve just naturally gravitated into this so, yes! THERE IS HOPE! Most assuredly.
I do still struggle to find well fitting jeans! Although I’m at a very healthy weight, my waist measurement is not as small as it used to me and my hips are a little narrow. So if I try on jeans that fit my waist my hips are swimming in an ocean of fabric and it’s not pretty! Add to that my fuller thighs (that’s not a new menopausal thing, just years of gymnastics)and I’m about to give up my denim! Oh, say it isn’t so!
Erin, could you do a video suggesting jeans that work for slightly larger waists, if you haven’talready? I’ve found wide leg jeans to work best for me when I can find a pair that’s narrow enough in the hips. My one happy jeans find: Abrand A94 High and Wide Walk Away Jeans.
If anyone has read this far, please take these things away from my long-winded-ness:
Although YMMV, my weight problems have melted away so there is hope,
And sometimes letting up on yourself a bit will let your body begin to make healthier choices for you. My food choices have certainly changed and it just happened.
Be of good chere!

By: Erin Busbee

Erin Busbee — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 21:34:58 +0000

In reply to Kim.

I agree… the broken foot is a sign.
I totally get it, Kim… and I was on that train too, but no more. I think the more we obsess, the worse it gets. Personally, I think surrender and self-love is the way forward.
Sending you so much love and strength as you heal.
~Erin xo

By: Erin Busbee

Erin Busbee — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 21:32:41 +0000

In reply to Johna Peyton.

I would definitely talk to your doctor, but my understanding is that we gain weight in the middle after menopause because of a lack of estrogen. There are other factors too like lower muscle mass contributing to a slower metabolism. The Mayo Clinic does a nice job of explaining it here: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/womens-health/in-depth/menopause-weight-gain/art-20046058